crippling blond hair colour

For long months I was longing for a change on my head. I love all kind of changes. That's the only way to experience and vary. Change a flat every few years, rent a house in the forest, move to the huge city, change your job after few years, change a profession some time, if you're bored just recreate yourself from the beginning. Age has absolutely and fortunately nothing to do with it.

I do it all the time. Since I discovered that I'm afraid of only and only technical part of all these changes and that it's not so difficult in the end and brings every time a lot of freshness and adventures, I do it regularly.
But recently I rarely changed my hair colour.
Blonde destroyed and desiccated my hair. I couldn't keep it longer any more so it stayed with this unflattering length.
My friend, who happened to be a hairdresser, is a huge fan of champagne, warm blonde. For years I had this feeling something was wrong...I looked like a transvestite... sometimes. 
He tried to convince me it's because of my always visible darker roots.
But no.
I discovered few weeks after dyeing it always started to be in extremely warmish shade. And 'warm' colours  are not mine.

Anyway as our ways went in separate directions, I guess it happens when one starts to expect the other one to be someone else and scolds for features that actually create one's personality, we stopped keeping the relation alive probably because of this huge lack of acceptance. 

This is the beginning of 'How I got to MATRIX studio in Northampton'.
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Harry, with 7 years of experience, chose for me this darker blonde. For the first time since 2009 my hair look actually healthy and there's even a shine. 
I still don't recognize myself but feel so much better.
More like Barbara Stanwyck femme fatale...

who, by the way, looked very kitschy in screaming blond in 'Double Indemnity',

and finally less like a worse copy of Sandra Dee...

So, early (at noon) in the morning I run to shoot few self-photos, very often I can't decide if I see something live but on the photos I know immediately, and yes - I'm satisfied.
I am convinced my friend in the (constant) flow of self admiration and self glorification would trample my satisfaction, but well... he's not here and I feel truly Lighter now.
I didn't put any make up, I'm sorry... just tried to fix it with a lipstick later on and didn't want to wait.

I adore red hair !!! which I will never have because of my 'red face' effect. However I found bloggers advice how to maintain it: msK
It is difficult for me to believe what was there: 

"by now my hair is getting used to only being washed every third or fourth day. My personal record is not washing it for 5 days, and my hair felt GREAT, no kidding. I actually felt like my hair said "I love you!!". When your hair goes greasy or feels a bit eww hide it in a bandana or wear a hat, it's getting close to winter anyway."

I guess everyone knows it but just so I feel better... Wash You Hair !!!

Ladies! Hygiene is a foundation of existence.

It was in times of my fathers when people thought: 'It will eventually become less dirty when you don't wash it.'

Almost everyone dye their hair, and everyone know that washing it takes out the colour. But it's like oxygen and breathing - it always goes together !!!

If you want to get drunk you'll pay for it the next day.

There's action and consequence.

Hair is just the same part of your body as skin and teeth. It gets dirty in the same way. Biological process doesn't stop 3cm above your eyebrows.

When your hair goes greasy or feels a bit eww hide it in a bandana or wear a hat, it's getting close to winter anyway.

When your hair feels eww or greasy WASH IT !!!

It is more than repulsive to put on 'it' anything. The smell, the look. Hopefully you won't meet your dream guy that day !

I would like to go a step further and suggest:

WASH IT Before it feels eww !!!

I cherish glamour every day, all day and strongly disagree with this what I'm reading at Miss K blog. 

Also comments made me really disappointed:

Dolly Cool ClareNov 6, 2011 10:29 AM

Totally agree! being a faux red for 15 years the best thing you can do is not wash it! I wash mine twice a week max and it keeps the colour in so much longer and its not good to wash your hair lots anyway as it strips the hair of natural oils :)

'Natural Oils' !!!??? is there anything like this??? you mean Filth and Stench?

I guess/hope you're not single girls, for your own sake, suspecting laziness.

Blonde, Red... agree with consequences. It is fading but maintenance can NOT be hold by grease and lack of hygiene on your head !!!

I'll take it as Delirium.

However she is one of my favourites.

For Delirium was once Delight. And although that was long ago now, even today her eyes are badly matched: one eye is a vivid emerald green, spattered with silver flecks that move, her other eye is vein blue.

My Pet - 'treat your husband as a dog'

Average man receives much less affection and care than a pet.

If a Man Answers 1962.

I got so inspired by Sandra Dee look in this movie, which came like salvation since I'm quite tired of my hairstyle. It still needs improvement but couldn't be so bad if my course mate had an urge to get this photo.

Too flat, asks for back-combing and something more ...

Fallowing the movie:
If you want a perfect marriage treat your husband as a dog. Makes sense.
- Ignore the fact that Bobby Darin woke up one day, supposedly, and decided to divorce Sandra Dee. -
Pet him, stroke him. When I do it frequently but in small dozes he's always happy. It seems then he's not talking but starts even singing ..
Never loose your temper with a pet!!! I should write it in some visible place and practise concentration with relaxation in dramatic moments. It definitively puts an end to all arguments. However my aunt has a theory that big dogs just have to be overpowered physically. Just have a brutal fight, once and forever which will establish who the winner is.
If a pet doesn't want to fallow, just let him in the start. Later on when he's happy on his track just try to point him suddenly but firmly to your desired direction. I do have to try it harder. Usually when I say 'let's go there!' cross-grained he really objects and usually stays for next couple of hours in the same place. But if I ask 'so what do you want to do today?', there's a long list of ideas. Then it's not difficult to push him aside. A bit distracted maybe will even be satisfied.
Praise him all the time. Every single the most simple action. Like taking trash out, hoovering, washing dishes... eventually he will throw himself rapidly on everything he thinks he's good at. Yes, I recommend. Truly works.


I would definitively put to this guide:
Have some secrets.
Don't share the bathroom in the same time...unless you're having a bath.
Never tell true prices you paid.
Admit only to 1/4 or less shopping you did.
Always say that the thing you're wearing is so old and how could he missed that! - If you're asked.
Never underline you're going to a hairdresser or beautician. Even if you mention he'll never remember and will think you don't really need so much assistance. (I so fail in this matter)


Getting to basics:
Always wear sexy lingerie.
Wear black stockings...or at least stockings...
Sleep in alluring nighties. I, personally, sleep in extra, over the top alluring nightdresses to counterbalance use of teeth protector, I have to use because of bruxism, and pin curls.
Find out your the most beautiful version of I-feel-ugly-and-do-nothing-about-it instead of being seriously shredded. 
Don't argue too much but in the end in silence always do your stuff, be true to yourself above all.
Trust only yourself.
Always be independent. 

And if it doesn't work...fallow the movie and find yourself a lover, at least imaginary one.